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Wait, don’t answer yet!

Some 3-5 year olds do ask oodles of questions, and parents do answer so quickly to satisfy everyone or show the kids that they know everything. Quick answers are also delivered to quickly get rid of all interruptions so to reach a peace of mind. But is that what really happens when you give quick answers to your kids? I bet my bottom penny you don’t usually reach that peace at all. The quicker you answer, the more questions asked. Because that’s just what kids do. “Why? Ohh…. Really? But why? But why? Why???” Sometimes I even wonder if they really want to know why or just another powerful attention seeking method they naturally invented and passed on from one generation to another. However, in my opinion, both are worth attending to.
So instead of spending some time with your kids by quickly answering questions, please do spend some quality time with them by doing some adventurous investigation together. This is not a new thing to discuss anyway. Every parent from the school I used to work at, knew exactly the theory of not answering questions instantly. Although some of them just couldn’t help it but uncovered the facts in express mode. I remember some parents came to me frustrated, “Now I don’t know how to answer their questions anymore, why is ‘someone’ pregnant?”
There are books, internet resources, pictures, models, museums, other people, places eg. Hospitals, etc, that can help parents equip their kids with some research skills. Those skills are going to be very much needed as they get older. Invest your time, creativity, and a little extra energy no matter how fed up you are with life other than home. There will be more questions they’d ask in life, but you won’t be there with the answers forever.
Your kids should know how to fight for what they believe in, so you’d better guide their beliefs in the right direction.

God bless you.

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Negative Side of A School With Many Nanny-Raised Children

This morning I had conversation with my wife that leads me to an interesting thinking.

The background of our conversation was this. One time, our son was suddenly crying in his class. My wife observed this happened twice, and she arrived into a conclusion that he was crying because one of his friends often crying in the class (also suddenly, without certain reason).

Before I continue, let me describe the school. The school doesn’t have any international or national-plus labels, but the children are from many countries and the class is in English. The school fee is quite high. Some of the children are coming from rich families, and some others are from working class families. I can say that most of the expats are from working class families, and most Indonesian are the riches (not all, we and some others are not). I don’t know if it’s because of the culture or lifestyle, or because of both parents are working (this we know is true for some), some of the children are going to school and back home accompanied by nannies. These children are also raised and grown up with their nannies. My wife and all the expats moms are going to the school with our children, no nanny.

Now back again to our son. His friend, who often crying suddenly, is one of the children who are raised by nannies. So, our conversation leads me to this thinking: the negative side (or the thing that we as parents should aware of) of an expensive school, is that there can be many unhappy children inside. We all know that children influence each other greatly in their interactions.

They are unhappy because they are not close to their moms or dads. They are raised by nannies. They probably don’t feel the love of their parents. Although the parents are actually love them.

The problem of these unhappy children is not only their moods but also their attitude. One of the kids we know looks for attention by disturbing other children. I know by experience that this kind of attitude happens in most schools, but certainly we don’t want that to happen while our children are 3 years old.

I don’t say that all expensive schools are bad in this matter, but if the fee is high, I think there are more probability that these nanny-raised children are there.

So parents should think about this before enrolling our children to any school. We, ourselves, are going to move our son to another school by next year.