This morning I had conversation with my wife that leads me to an interesting thinking.
The background of our conversation was this. One time, our son was suddenly crying in his class. My wife observed this happened twice, and she arrived into a conclusion that he was crying because one of his friends often crying in the class (also suddenly, without certain reason).
Before I continue, let me describe the school. The school doesn’t have any international or national-plus labels, but the children are from many countries and the class is in English. The school fee is quite high. Some of the children are coming from rich families, and some others are from working class families. I can say that most of the expats are from working class families, and most Indonesian are the riches (not all, we and some others are not). I don’t know if it’s because of the culture or lifestyle, or because of both parents are working (this we know is true for some), some of the children are going to school and back home accompanied by nannies. These children are also raised and grown up with their nannies. My wife and all the expats moms are going to the school with our children, no nanny.
Now back again to our son. His friend, who often crying suddenly, is one of the children who are raised by nannies. So, our conversation leads me to this thinking: the negative side (or the thing that we as parents should aware of) of an expensive school, is that there can be many unhappy children inside. We all know that children influence each other greatly in their interactions.
They are unhappy because they are not close to their moms or dads. They are raised by nannies. They probably don’t feel the love of their parents. Although the parents are actually love them.
The problem of these unhappy children is not only their moods but also their attitude. One of the kids we know looks for attention by disturbing other children. I know by experience that this kind of attitude happens in most schools, but certainly we don’t want that to happen while our children are 3 years old.
I don’t say that all expensive schools are bad in this matter, but if the fee is high, I think there are more probability that these nanny-raised children are there.
So parents should think about this before enrolling our children to any school. We, ourselves, are going to move our son to another school by next year.