I’m here because of you.

Hi again everybody, let’s compete that from this day on, our children will be the luckiest happiest proudest kids ever lived on earth.
Competition eh?! It’s an encouraging one though. So, is the challenge accepted!?! :0)
I’ve heard many youth say, “I never asked to be born!” with a usual sarcasm and so on. You know, I will never want to hear my future kids say those words that way.
All I can do now is hope for the best and have faith in God that when I raise my children, my main purpose is to assist them find their own purpose in God.
So one day they’ll come to me and say, “My privillege to serve the Lord our God with you. I’m so proud to be a part of His glorious works. Love you Mom n Dad.”



Attribute to “High-Reliability Organization”

Quoted from the book Judgment Calls: 12 Stories Of Big Decisions And The Teams That Got Them Right, Chapter 1: NASA STS-119–Should We Launch? Case

In a recent study, Karl Weick and Kathleen Sutcliffe note five attributes of high reliability organization (such as firefighter team, hostage negotiation team, etc. because their price for failure is high):

  1. Commitment to tracking small failures
  2. Ability to recognize and understand complex issues
  3. Real attention to frontline (operational) workers
  4. Ability to learn from and rebound from errors
  5. Ability to improvise effective response to crisis

A major barrier they constantly fight to overcome is complacency and arrogance.


Wait, don’t answer yet!

Some 3-5 year olds do ask oodles of questions, and parents do answer so quickly to satisfy everyone or show the kids that they know everything. Quick answers are also delivered to quickly get rid of all interruptions so to reach a peace of mind. But is that what really happens when you give quick answers to your kids? I bet my bottom penny you don’t usually reach that peace at all. The quicker you answer, the more questions asked. Because that’s just what kids do. “Why? Ohh…. Really? But why? But why? Why???” Sometimes I even wonder if they really want to know why or just another powerful attention seeking method they naturally invented and passed on from one generation to another. However, in my opinion, both are worth attending to.
So instead of spending some time with your kids by quickly answering questions, please do spend some quality time with them by doing some adventurous investigation together. This is not a new thing to discuss anyway. Every parent from the school I used to work at, knew exactly the theory of not answering questions instantly. Although some of them just couldn’t help it but uncovered the facts in express mode. I remember some parents came to me frustrated, “Now I don’t know how to answer their questions anymore, why is ‘someone’ pregnant?”
There are books, internet resources, pictures, models, museums, other people, places eg. Hospitals, etc, that can help parents equip their kids with some research skills. Those skills are going to be very much needed as they get older. Invest your time, creativity, and a little extra energy no matter how fed up you are with life other than home. There will be more questions they’d ask in life, but you won’t be there with the answers forever.
Your kids should know how to fight for what they believe in, so you’d better guide their beliefs in the right direction.

God bless you.


Careers for ENFP Personality Types

From personalitypage.com. Who is an ENFP type?

Careers for ENFP Personality Types ——————————————————————————– Whether you’re a young adult trying to find your place in the world, or a not-so-young adult trying to find out if you’re moving along the right path, it’s important to understand yourself and the personality traits which will impact your likeliness to succeed or fail at various careers. It’s equally important to understand what is really important to you. When armed with an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and an awareness of what you truly value, you are in an excellent position to pick a career which you will find rewarding. ENFPs generally have the following traits: Project-oriented Bright and capable Warmly, genuinely interested in people; great people skills Extremely intuitive and perceptive about people Able to relate to people on their own level Service-oriented; likely to put the needs of others above their own Future-oriented Dislike performing routine tasks Need approval and appreciation from others Cooperative and friendly Creative and energetic Well-developed verbal and written communication skills Natural leaders, but do not like to control people Resist being controlled by others Can work logically and rationally – use their intuition to understand the goal and work backwards towards it Usually able to grasp difficult concepts and theories ENFPs are lucky in that they’re good a quite a lot of different things. An ENFP can generally achieve a good degree of success at anything which has interested them. However, ENFPs get bored rather easily and are not naturally good at following things through to completion. Accordingly, they should avoid jobs which require performing a lot of detailed, routine-oriented tasks. They will do best in professions which allow them to creatively generate new ideas and deal closely with people. They will not be happy in positions which are confining and regimented. The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers which would be especially suitable for an ENFP. It is meant to be a starting place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best career match is among those listed. Possible Career Paths for the ENFP:

  • Consultant
  • Psychologist
  • Entrepreneur
  • Actor Teacher
  • Counselor
  • Politician / Diplomat
  • Writer / Journalist
  • Television Reporter
  • Computer Programmer / Systems Analyst
  • Scientist
  • Engineer
  • Artist

Religious Motivation

I’m not sure if I’m right, but this is my thought. There are three motivation in our relationship with God:

  1. We don’t want to be cursed or failed in our life. We think that without God, we are doomed, we will fail in all our efforts.
  2. We want God’s blessings. We want to receive. We want to be success in what we do.
  3. We simply love God.

At first, I was thinking that the right motivation should only be reason number 3. But I’m thinking again that probably there’s nothing wrong with all the other motivation too. But I’m not sure. The blessings are God’s promise, after all. What do you think?

Big Star, Small Star

A few weeks ago, our son got a small star in his school, while his friend got a big star (I don’t know what their task was).

At first, my wife didn’t think that it was a big deal. So we didn’t say anything. However, Sammy kept talk about it for the next two weeks.

That was when we discuss, and realize about the problem. Sammy felt discriminated because of the way he did his task. We realize that actually this way of giving big or small star is against the concept of Totto Chan‘s school or even Montessori school. We also wonder why this could happen, while the school labels itself as Montessori.

So my wife complained to the school and they apologized for what had happened. I think we did a good thing to make sure that won’t happen again.

We have to remember that every child (person) is unique, so they have different way to do things, to create things, or to express themselves. If we forget this and give them “a small star” because they don’t do things the way we want, we can kill their motivation to learn, or (dangerously) kill their confidence.

You Just Lost Your Whole Life


I got this from a sermon in a Sunday service.


There was a professor walking along a shore to get fresh air. Then he met a fisherman on a boat, and asked him if he can go with him to the sea. The fisherman said yes.


It was afternoon and the sky was clear that they can see the stars and the moon. Birds were flying around them. Then the professor started a conversation.


Professor: “Do you know what kind of birds they are?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t know what they are.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
Then the professor looked at the sky.
Professor: “Do you know what constellation it is?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t even know what a constellation is.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
The fisherman lost half of his life, according to the professor.
Then there was a strong wind, making waves, and swung the boat.
Fisherman: “Do you know how to swim?”
Professor: “I don’t know.”
Fisherman, knowing that the wind will get stronger: “You just lost your life.”


Moral of the story: Highly proud men will see his downfall. We need others in our life, so do not look down to others. Kho Ping Hoo (an Indonesian famous kung fu novel writer) often put this in his story: there’s always a sky above a sky.


NOTE: Thanks Pastor Albert for sharing this story.

Blue Blistering Barnacles!

Just watched The Adventure of Tintin. For me, the story is so-so. Maybe that’s because I’m getting old :-p. However, I’m amazed with the technology today. The animation is very good; it’s smooth and human-like. But, if you want me to be perfect, there’s one thing that I can’t find it good enough. It’s the animation of taking/holding something. It’s still not natural enough to me.

One more thing for you, here is a good quote from Captain Haddock in the movie:

Failed. There are plenty of others willing to call you a failure. A fool. A loser. Don’t you ever say it of yourself. You send out the wrong signal, that is what people pick up. Don’t you understand? You care about something, you fight for it. You hit a wall, you push through it. There’s something you need to know about failure, Tintin. You can never let it defeat you.

Negative Side of A School With Many Nanny-Raised Children

This morning I had conversation with my wife that leads me to an interesting thinking.

The background of our conversation was this. One time, our son was suddenly crying in his class. My wife observed this happened twice, and she arrived into a conclusion that he was crying because one of his friends often crying in the class (also suddenly, without certain reason).

Before I continue, let me describe the school. The school doesn’t have any international or national-plus labels, but the children are from many countries and the class is in English. The school fee is quite high. Some of the children are coming from rich families, and some others are from working class families. I can say that most of the expats are from working class families, and most Indonesian are the riches (not all, we and some others are not). I don’t know if it’s because of the culture or lifestyle, or because of both parents are working (this we know is true for some), some of the children are going to school and back home accompanied by nannies. These children are also raised and grown up with their nannies. My wife and all the expats moms are going to the school with our children, no nanny.

Now back again to our son. His friend, who often crying suddenly, is one of the children who are raised by nannies. So, our conversation leads me to this thinking: the negative side (or the thing that we as parents should aware of) of an expensive school, is that there can be many unhappy children inside. We all know that children influence each other greatly in their interactions.

They are unhappy because they are not close to their moms or dads. They are raised by nannies. They probably don’t feel the love of their parents. Although the parents are actually love them.

The problem of these unhappy children is not only their moods but also their attitude. One of the kids we know looks for attention by disturbing other children. I know by experience that this kind of attitude happens in most schools, but certainly we don’t want that to happen while our children are 3 years old.

I don’t say that all expensive schools are bad in this matter, but if the fee is high, I think there are more probability that these nanny-raised children are there.

So parents should think about this before enrolling our children to any school. We, ourselves, are going to move our son to another school by next year.