I’m Unique

In education, the “one size fits all” model doesn’t work.


Religious Motivation

I’m not sure if I’m right, but this is my thought. There are three motivation in our relationship with God:

  1. We don’t want to be cursed or failed in our life. We think that without God, we are doomed, we will fail in all our efforts.
  2. We want God’s blessings. We want to receive. We want to be success in what we do.
  3. We simply love God.

At first, I was thinking that the right motivation should only be reason number 3. But I’m thinking again that probably there’s nothing wrong with all the other motivation too. But I’m not sure. The blessings are God’s promise, after all. What do you think?

Big Star, Small Star

A few weeks ago, our son got a small star in his school, while his friend got a big star (I don’t know what their task was).

At first, my wife didn’t think that it was a big deal. So we didn’t say anything. However, Sammy kept talk about it for the next two weeks.

That was when we discuss, and realize about the problem. Sammy felt discriminated because of the way he did his task. We realize that actually this way of giving big or small star is against the concept of Totto Chan‘s school or even Montessori school. We also wonder why this could happen, while the school labels itself as Montessori.

So my wife complained to the school and they apologized for what had happened. I think we did a good thing to make sure that won’t happen again.

We have to remember that every child (person) is unique, so they have different way to do things, to create things, or to express themselves. If we forget this and give them “a small star” because they don’t do things the way we want, we can kill their motivation to learn, or (dangerously) kill their confidence.

You Just Lost Your Whole Life


I got this from a sermon in a Sunday service.


There was a professor walking along a shore to get fresh air. Then he met a fisherman on a boat, and asked him if he can go with him to the sea. The fisherman said yes.


It was afternoon and the sky was clear that they can see the stars and the moon. Birds were flying around them. Then the professor started a conversation.


Professor: “Do you know what kind of birds they are?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t know what they are.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
Then the professor looked at the sky.
Professor: “Do you know what constellation it is?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t even know what a constellation is.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
The fisherman lost half of his life, according to the professor.
Then there was a strong wind, making waves, and swung the boat.
Fisherman: “Do you know how to swim?”
Professor: “I don’t know.”
Fisherman, knowing that the wind will get stronger: “You just lost your life.”


Moral of the story: Highly proud men will see his downfall. We need others in our life, so do not look down to others. Kho Ping Hoo (an Indonesian famous kung fu novel writer) often put this in his story: there’s always a sky above a sky.


NOTE: Thanks Pastor Albert for sharing this story.

Negative Side of A School With Many Nanny-Raised Children

This morning I had conversation with my wife that leads me to an interesting thinking.

The background of our conversation was this. One time, our son was suddenly crying in his class. My wife observed this happened twice, and she arrived into a conclusion that he was crying because one of his friends often crying in the class (also suddenly, without certain reason).

Before I continue, let me describe the school. The school doesn’t have any international or national-plus labels, but the children are from many countries and the class is in English. The school fee is quite high. Some of the children are coming from rich families, and some others are from working class families. I can say that most of the expats are from working class families, and most Indonesian are the riches (not all, we and some others are not). I don’t know if it’s because of the culture or lifestyle, or because of both parents are working (this we know is true for some), some of the children are going to school and back home accompanied by nannies. These children are also raised and grown up with their nannies. My wife and all the expats moms are going to the school with our children, no nanny.

Now back again to our son. His friend, who often crying suddenly, is one of the children who are raised by nannies. So, our conversation leads me to this thinking: the negative side (or the thing that we as parents should aware of) of an expensive school, is that there can be many unhappy children inside. We all know that children influence each other greatly in their interactions.

They are unhappy because they are not close to their moms or dads. They are raised by nannies. They probably don’t feel the love of their parents. Although the parents are actually love them.

The problem of these unhappy children is not only their moods but also their attitude. One of the kids we know looks for attention by disturbing other children. I know by experience that this kind of attitude happens in most schools, but certainly we don’t want that to happen while our children are 3 years old.

I don’t say that all expensive schools are bad in this matter, but if the fee is high, I think there are more probability that these nanny-raised children are there.

So parents should think about this before enrolling our children to any school. We, ourselves, are going to move our son to another school by next year.

Real Steel, Moral of The Story

It’s been many years since the last time I went to movie. This time I watched Real Steel, a very good movie, I think. It’s not only a robot movie, but filled in with many philosophy. Well, the robots are cool too.

Here are my thoughts after watching it:

  1. If you’re a father, no matter how ‘fail’ you think you are, your kids will always want you to be their hero. They want to be proud of you. They ARE proud of you.
  2. If you’re a kid, you know you have a father. No matter how ‘bad’ you think he is, he IS your father. When you say – or even if you only think – that you are proud of him, it’ll make him a better man.
  3. No matter how good you build a robot, you are the builder. The robot will not outsmart you as a human.
  4. That’s because we’re not God. We can’t create human.
  5. Think before you do, and think about what you did.
  6. Some things in this world is worth a 1200 miles travelling.
  7. Never forget who saved you.
  8. It’s not the size that matters.

Being a father, I think lesson number one is the most important. It can give you strength when you ‘fight’ for your family.

Other than that, there are also some cool gadgets in the movie: hp ‘glass’ laptop and robot controller, nokia coolest smartphone, and xbox 720 banner.

One more thing, my emotion was moved with every Atom’s fights (Atom is the hero robot, he has human-like fighting style and he can dance too!).

If you have teenagers, go watch the movie together. It’s worth your time and money. If you don’t have, it’s still worth it.

Think About This; You May Not Realize It

My friend gave this text to me. I think this is good to be shared here. My note is after * sign.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. Think about this. You may not realize it, but it’s 100% true.
1. At least 2 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
5. Every night someone think about you before they go to sleep. *ehem :-p
6. You mean the world to someone. *ehem :-p
7. If not for you, someone may not be living.
8. You are special and unique.
9. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won’t get it, but if you trust God to do what is best, and want it on His time, probably, sooner or later, you will get it or something better. *I get this from Pastor Yohan Candawasa, and agree, that God is most interested in ourselves, and not in the things that we ask; God will give us what we want if it can make us a better person.
10. When you make the biggest mistake ever something good can come from it.
11. When you think the world has turned its back to you, take a look, you must likely have turned your back on the world.
12. Someone that you don’t even know exists, loves you. *I think this is true for most of us, but not necessarily true for everyone.
13. Always remember the compliments you received, forget about the rude remarks.
14. Always tell someone how you feel about them, you feel much better when they know and you’ll both be happy. *Being grown in eastern culture, I think this one is difficult for most asian, although I very agree with it.
15. If you have great friends, take the time to let them know that they are great.

Thing to Consider When You’re Deciding to Change Your Career

In life, we’re all supposed to find our “sweet spot”, a job that match our talent. Many of us are blessed to have found our sweet spot earlier at a young age. Many others have to do a trial and error approach on this. That means we change our career from one to another.

For those who do, here’s one good story to think of. I get this story from the book “Cure for the Common Life” by Max Lucado, and he (Max) got it from Bob Russell’s book “Money: The Owner’s Manual“.

A farmer felt unsatisfied with his farm. He complained about a lake within his land that has to be taken care of. Hills make him to drive his car up and down. Big cows walk through his land. Those not include all the fences and food for his cattle and all the headaches.

He decided to sell the farm and move to a more pleasant place. He called a property agent. Few days afterward, the agent called him to get approval for an ads. He read the ads to the farmer. The ads describe a beautiful and peaceful farm, with many hills and green pastures, complete with a lake, fresh air, and well taken care cattle. Then the farmer said, “Please read again for me.”

After hear it twice, the farmer said, “I change my mind. I don’t want to sell my farm. I’m looking for a place like that all my life. ”

Max Lucado advises us to check again our perspective to life. Success is not defined by our position or salary, but by this: to do the best in what we do.

Only When You Know Where You’re Going, You Can Write Something Like This…


 Friends and family who love B** Re******,It is my great privilege to announce Dad’s last battle has been won!  Victory is His, and Dad’s treasure is being claimed in Heaven – Hallelujah! Hallelujah!  “Lord, thank you for the gift of yourself as presented to us through the life and love of Ro**** Ed**** Re******!  We have indeed been blessed.”  We can all imagine the celebration and joy on Dad’s face as he enters the Glory of His Righteousness – Dad beaming in gratitude and thanksgiving as he rolls up his sleeves and asks for an assignment while kneeling in worship.

Tonight, at 9:10 this evening, surrounded by family, Dad made his final departure from home in Colorado, while arriving home in the arms of God.  No miles earned or used on this one – upgrades guaranteed, legroom eternal!  Thank you for your prayers – throughout the years, and particularly at this time of Dad’s honor and reward.  Our family has had the great blessing of your fellowship and care.  We have a very special appreciation and love for all of you, and the whole world fellowship who have affirmed Dad as friend and brother in Christ.

Dad loved life in a passionate and open affair.  He loved nothing more than being a part of The Great Commission; to labor for Love, and being an introduction to Christ Jesus.  I can testify better than others to his unshakable and gracious forgiveness, and eternal encouragement.  

John the Baptist, cousin and precursor, baptizer to Jesus of Nazareth, himself an early martyr offering his head upon a platter: “greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”  Well done, Dad!  

We are thankful.  Amen.

In His Love,


Ps – I send this with the regret I have for undoubtedly missing the inclusion of many important friends in distribution of this note.  Please pass on the word of Dad’s homecoming with the sincere love and appreciation appropriate to his fellowship.  Your in Christ, the Re******.