Big Star, Small Star

A few weeks ago, our son got a small star in his school, while his friend got a big star (I don’t know what their task was).

At first, my wife didn’t think that it was a big deal. So we didn’t say anything. However, Sammy kept talk about it for the next two weeks.

That was when we discuss, and realize about the problem. Sammy felt discriminated because of the way he did his task. We realize that actually this way of giving big or small star is against the concept of Totto Chan‘s school or even Montessori school. We also wonder why this could happen, while the school labels itself as Montessori.

So my wife complained to the school and they apologized for what had happened. I think we did a good thing to make sure that won’t happen again.

We have to remember that every child (person) is unique, so they have different way to do things, to create things, or to express themselves. If we forget this and give them “a small star” because they don’t do things the way we want, we can kill their motivation to learn, or (dangerously) kill their confidence.


You Just Lost Your Whole Life


I got this from a sermon in a Sunday service.


There was a professor walking along a shore to get fresh air. Then he met a fisherman on a boat, and asked him if he can go with him to the sea. The fisherman said yes.


It was afternoon and the sky was clear that they can see the stars and the moon. Birds were flying around them. Then the professor started a conversation.


Professor: “Do you know what kind of birds they are?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t know what they are.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
Then the professor looked at the sky.
Professor: “Do you know what constellation it is?”
Fisherman: “I’m a low man. I don’t even know what a constellation is.”
Professor: “You just lost a quarter of your life not learning things.”
The fisherman lost half of his life, according to the professor.
Then there was a strong wind, making waves, and swung the boat.
Fisherman: “Do you know how to swim?”
Professor: “I don’t know.”
Fisherman, knowing that the wind will get stronger: “You just lost your life.”


Moral of the story: Highly proud men will see his downfall. We need others in our life, so do not look down to others. Kho Ping Hoo (an Indonesian famous kung fu novel writer) often put this in his story: there’s always a sky above a sky.


NOTE: Thanks Pastor Albert for sharing this story.